This question has been in my mind for a while, popping in and out every so often, but today something happened that really pushed me to ask a certain community about this, hopefully infrequent situation.

My sister, who just graduated high school (last night, actually), has a lot of cool friends. Ever since I graduated high school and started going to college, I've lost touch with most of my friends at home and started hanging out with my sister's friends, partly out of convenience, but also because I'm really busy with my internship at a local engineering firm.

I really like her group of friends because they aren't the partying type, which I have tried to avoid most of my life. One of the things they will do on occasion, though, is during car rides to and from places (the destinations aren't really that important), one person will scream out the window at pedestrians to illicit a reaction.

We live in a mostly white community, which I haven't been happy with since we moved here from Chicago. Most of the people that we're screaming at are middle aged white guys or girls, but occasionally, we see someone who isn't white on the sidewalk, and if someone starts to look like they're going to scream at them, the other people in the car will try and stop them, with the reason that it would be racist.

Isn't the fact that we have to be selective racist in itself?

Today, I was driving back from the Home Depot from getting some supplies for a project, my sister was the only other person in the car. She rolled down the window, scoping out a victim, and saw a group of people.

"OOGA BOOGA" was her choice of words, which wasn't the best, as I noticed right afterwards that there was a black teenaged girl at the rear of the pack, apparently concealed by a car on the side of the road. My sister may have seen her, she may have not, but she didn't understand that what she said could have been taken to be racist.

Is it racist if she didn't know it could have been?

This is silly, and I really hate that society tells us that we can't have our fun unless we're ostracizing white people. Maybe we should just grow up.